Week 4

Well, it's week 4 and my first full week alone in the townhouse without the kids.  The first night alone felt weird.  I picked up some groceries on my way from "the nest" to the townhouse; the whole time I had this feeling like "yes, I am single and only want 2 bananas and 3 apples" but I am not positive anyone really noticed.  Dinner alone was surprisingly nice.  Monday morning I was able to sleep late and realized I had no real reason to get up - no kids to feed, no dog to let out or meowing cats wanting to be fed; that felt luxurious!  Monday night I ate alone and then headed out alone for a Swing Dance lesson at a local bar.  It was So Much Fun!  I danced almost every dance with very good dancers who were able to spin me around the dance floor with ease.  I felt a bit uneasy going alone, but am so glad I went.  I met some nice people and plan to go country dancing Saturday night with them.  Tuesday night was booked with a personal training session at the local gym.  As part of my new life I want to focus on health and getting into shape.  I would like to wear a bikini this summer; if Valerie Bertinelli can do it then so can I!  Dinner alone was not an issue.  I like being able to decide what I want and not having to worry if anyone else will like my choices.  I have kept in contact with the kids via phone and text messaging (both kids have cell phones).  I miss them, but know this time with their dad is important just as I know this time alone is important for me.  I am writing which has always been a dream.  I have contacted some old friends and am setting up lunch and dinner dates to catch up.  Hopefully the rest of week 4 will go smoothly. 

Nesting Divorce Agreement

My husband and I decided to separate after 17 years of marriage but we didn't want the kids the pack each week to go see the other parent.  With the help of mediation and family therapy we were able to create a nesting divorce agreement.  I purchased a small home "the nest" and my husband rented a townhouse nearby.  I live in "the nest" with our children for 1 week and on Sunday my husband arrives and I head over to the townhouse.  He gets a full week with the kids.  The kids have the luxury of staying in "the nest".  I get a week to focus on me.  Most mom's are lucky to get a weekend free every other week; I get a whole week every other week.  Will I survive without my kids for 7 whole days?  Will I be sad?  Or will I go out and have fun?  Follow me as I head out on this journey.